Friends to dating advice
If her female friends are also your friends, you can ask them for advice—as long as it's a question you wouldn't hide from your girlfriend.
Ask them how you can be a better boyfriend, for example.
"For most men, that's family." It's evolution: We're wired to pass on our genes.
So your folks are subconsciously assessing your gal as a suitable mother to their grandkids, Vigil says.
How can you tell if your girlfriend's friend is on your side? If you announce that the two of you are moving in together, will the friend say, "Well, you guys will certainly save money! "The people who are most dependent on us are often the most cautious about our relationships," says Jacob Vigil, Ph.
D., an assistant professor of psychology at the University of New Mexico.
"This can be especially true for mothers, who often hold high standards about who is good enough for their children," Sinclair says.
Their doubts can trigger second thoughts on your part.
He's jealous When a pal goes negative on your girlfriend, maybe he's just jealous that you've traded poker nights for poke-her nights.
So if they blab about the conversation, she'll see it as sweet, not behind-the-back.
Sabotage Her pals' opinions can become self-fulfilling prophecies.
If you're sure about your relationship but your parents are still skeptical, ask them to explain their concerns so you can address them head-on, says Scot Allgood, Ph.
D., director of the marriage and family therapy program at Utah State University.
By then they've had plenty of experience with struggles and setbacks.